Niko understood

Last night was the first time, Niko came to some understanding with us. He would normally be unable to see people as people when he would get his hands or see a phone. There is that single minded obsession with the distraction the device gave or his need. It would also be the same when it came to milk.

So when chat had to withstand his curses and tantrum and refused to give in he went berserk. He went berserk for a long while, as his mother quietly and firmly told him that he should not grab things and that he should ask. I was sure this would have ended in the usual way, where he would just not understand and keep throwing a tantrum or keep crying.

Then the amazing thing happened: he was sorry. He was sorry and hugged his mom. Chat explained to what he should do and they played a computer game together. It was amazing for me, because I didn't know if I would ever see this kind of understanding.

Everytime he would have a tantrum, I can remember the feeling of doing the exact same thing when I was as old as 6. I would not understand and my parents, tired from work and the real world, would break under the pressure of my tantrum.

I was stopping Niko from scratching and hitting chat by holding him down, Chat angrily told me to stop, which brought me back to the times my dad was trying to show me how to do certain things while I was crying and fighting him, and my mom just told him to stop. I guess it was the same, in a way. I thought I knew how he thought and felt, and that I knew then I had no way of ever understanding who my parents were.

Strangely, niko understood something. I don't think i would have ever understood at his age.

Its such a small milestone, but I've always been waiting for the time I would not have to let him do the bad things, where he understood consequences and action. Hopefully, this marks a change, where I can stop him for doing certain things and show him what to do, and hopefully it has some impact to his behavior.

I was worried that the ability for him to willfully choose to understand would never come. That he would be a teen ager and still act in the same way being unable to emphasize, talk, listen, explain or communicate and compromise.

Comments

Post a Comment

Popular posts from this blog

Technically I'm done with the project

no charter . after learning what a charter is and because they don't work with a charter I'll never do a project without it. A charter is a written agreement with a project sponsor/employer/ in what outputs to be expected and what points are needed to consider a project done. I've never worked with a character before and was continually frustrated and depressed because of constant revisions and fluctuating tastes and expectations. I'd rather be thought of a total prick than to destroy my life working without a charter. This comes up because, when technically my dad removed me from the website project I'm being asked to arrange it again. This fuels my wishes, not to mention memories of unbearable depressions, to really leave the company I just joined in 2 months. Honestly, I'm here cause my parents want me. They can't make me want this job. I was doing well in the 3d artist track, I was poor but well, less stressed and still hopeful of my future. Personally,
Read more

Gurps Mysteries

A really great GM book . If there was Game Mastering for Dummies (not just for DnD or GURPS ), Gurps Mysteries is the next level of Advanced Game Mastering. This is where the players grow up a little, they are not as interested in Hack and Slash anymore and they begin to lean on a more cerebral challenge. One of the best elements of this books is how to communicate clearly to your players through clues and hints in the game. Despite its focus on mystery, this books i great for any intrigue. Eventually mastering these technqies, format, and story telling will allow for games to have a very clear and sophisticated finish. An art onto itself, and not just a game. Of course the most important element is having fun. Fun is when you and the players are on the same page no matter what you throw at them to challenge their characters and give them a chance to shine. Filled with too much information . I'm excited at what I learned about armor smithing in the early Renaissance and late
Read more

330mg of Caffeine will do the trick

Ok i got a grande brewed coffee and put 8-10 packets of brown sugar thats about 155 calories. This is twice the amount of Caffeine i get from my 2 shots of espresso in the morning with 4 teaspoons of brown sugar. How do i feel... Better! although my face is reeling from the bitter after taste of the coffee. good coffee is really sour going down and really bitter after. The intense sugar tends to make the sourness taste fruity. Anyway, my is elevated and I'm a bit hyper but i am able to control that better these days. The tons of notebook and the emotional intelligence studies help. Particularly when i've broken down most of my peculiarities and the way I think. Heck, I think i can make an entire wiki based on how I'd react to certain things. It would be very revealing and transparent of me, and of course like the anything so vulnerable subject to abuse when falling in the wrong hands. I have to email, a friend back some airsoft details.
Read more